Mar 13 2008
Monster-in-law
My sister and her husband are having lunch while watching “Pilipinas Game Ka Na Ba?”. Edu gives a brief intro about each player. My brother-in-law asked my sister if she’ll be playing, what will be the introductory line for her. Without a doubt, my sister said “minalas sa biyenan”*lol*…what’s the right term for this? Guess it’s “monster-in-law”. Though I haven’t watched that movie, but the title speaks for itself. Truly, she had countless bad experiences with her in-laws even when Mamang was still alive and I am thankful that my parents-in-law are not like my sister’s. I came to assess my relationship with my parents-in-law. I may not be a perfect daughter-in-law ’coz I also have flaws (and I can also say I am not a monster daughter-in-law). But at least I can feel that I’ve been treated like their own daughter. I never had problem dealing with them for they are kind to me and my family (especially with my siblings).
My close friends in my former job were all married. Over lunch, we talked about our lives, their kids, and in-laws. They all have their share of bad experiences with their in-laws. For them, they just have to respect their PILs and be civil to them no matter what they feel for once they voice out their feelings, a “great war” will emerge between them and their spouse. Surely, spouses will defend their parents no matter what.
Talking of problems, I remember my father-in-law once said not to tell others of personal or marital problems. Guess he’s right and I realized how dumb I am to tell my close friends about our relationship problems (in detail) when Ace and I we’re still not married. Those times, I believe that telling my friends what I am going thru will help me ease the pain. Yes, in a sense but later did I realized that I am creating a bad impression against me or Ace. After that realization, I keep my problems with Ace within me or if I need to confide to a friend, I talk about the problem itself and not on my husband’s attitude in dealing with the problem. Above all, I am thankful that Ace has the same mindset as his Daddy. He doesn’t want others to know about our personal marital problems. He won’t even confide to his parents for he thinks involving others in our problem won’t help solve the problem or worse, would create chaos.
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